Waiting and having patience: Don’t act like you don’t already know this
I realize that the bidding sometimes starts low when it comes to guys choosing. And because of this, they never make it to the items with substance. When they do, they don’t see the value or worth because they have just placed a bid on something that appears to be the same or flashier in which not much work is required to maintain.
Here’s the deal: We aren’t really talking about auction items here. We are talking about or the difference between two women. Material, if you will…Both cut from the cloth of a woman. One of fine silk, lace trim, articulately crafted and woven to perfection. The other, a piece of cotton that can wash on any cycle. And all I am really saying is that you’ve never seen instructions on cotton that says, Handle With Care. And while you still should, if you want it to last longer, it doesn’t require it, so HE probably wouldn’t.
Women, you need to require that men handle you with the care that you need. If the instructions are not made clear, they won’t. From the time men were boys, they had to be told to take out the trash, clean their room, put their dirty clothes in the hamper instead of sprawled out over the floor. They had to be told to take a bath/shower, put on clean underwear…. You get what I am saying? They need instruction. Once those instructions are given and made clear, they can’t act like they don’t already know this. Only hold a man accountable for what they know. Then, hold yourself accountable for what you accept.
I hear women speak about having patience in dating the guy that they want, but 5, 10, 15 years in they are still waiting and have yet to recognize that it has reached the level of what they tolerate and has it nothing to do with patience. When you begin to accept a certain behavior while telling yourself that you’re just being patient, you’re in denial. There’s nothing wrong with having patience when you are waiting on the right thing. But there is absolutely something wrong with tolerating unruly behavior while you continue to believe that one day he will give you what you want.
We convince ourselves to believe that something good could come out of this. We make ourselves believe that because he gravitates more toward the cheap knock off… to knock off, that maybe our expectations were too high to begin with; thus, our reasoning behind lowering or reducing our standards which lessens and devalues our worth in order to levy ourselves with him.
Guys are probably going to always shop bargains and the lowest price, for long as it’s available but if you know that your merchandise is good, you know that you are worth a man making a substantial gesture in an investment of respect and proper care in you. And you will not settle for less.
Here are some examples of when it’s ok to be patience with the man you are dating
I will wait on a man who is building his net worth so that he can solidify his financial future
I will wait on a man who prioritizes his life in a way, so that it will work for the team in the long run
I will wait on a man who is responsible enough to know that his children should be first on the list
I will wait on a man who is eager to learn and is implementing things that he has learned
I will wait on a man who is consistent in showing by action and word, that he’s committed for the long run
I will wait on a man who speaks marriage and follows up with behavior that demonstrates he wants marriage
I will wait on a man who is diligent in seeking ways to build an empire
I will wait on a man who respects me during the process of my waiting, whom also shows appreciation
Here’s what is not OK to wait on, with the man you are dating:
I will not wait on a man to stop cheating on me.
I will not wait on a man to decide I’m worth it.
I will not wait on a man to decide if I’m enough.
I will not wait on a man who doesn’t realize that there’s something tremendously wrong with supporting another woman in her endeavors but not me in mine.
I will not wait on a man who can’t decide if I’m worth taking home to meet his family and friends.
I will not wait on a man who puts me through rigorous tryouts daily, to compete for him. If he can’t choose, I will choose for him.
I will not wait on a man to decide if I am appealing and desirable enough to keep his attention.
I will not wait on a man to finish laying down with every woman who wants to lay down with him, until no one is left.
I will not wait on a man who does not know the difference between a knock off and authenticity
I will not wait on a man who sees me as his last resort
I will not wait on a man who sees me as an option and not a priority
I will not wait on a man that spreads himself around town and brings me his leftovers
I will not wait on a man who has a revolving door for women
I will not wait on a man who places me last on the list of things to be concerned about
I will not wait on a man who pretends not to know the preliminaries in a relationship, yet knows all of them when it comes to another woman.
I must live by the words I write. Otherwise, I would constantly have to shove down extra servings of crow’s feet. Since I chose a unique way to serve my pallet and one that includes delicacies, I’ll pass on the wooden nickels.