I am not speaking for anyone else with this list and I warn you before reading that you are the one who asked me why I am single and / or why I am not dating. And I warn you, the list is long.
2. I have so many idiosyncrasies and most aren’t known until it happens. It often happens because its normal things people do, in which may not present a problem to others whereas I cringe.
3. Stepping out of the shower with wet feet, I do not like it. I hate stepping on wet surfaces barefoot or with my socks on from water left behind by someone else.
4. Men peeing all around the toilet and on the floor when they use the restroom. At least clean it up before you leave my bathroom.
5. People who do not wash their hands often or at least before eating and after using the restroom.
6. Dirty nails – overgrown hair – no deodorant, musty, bad breath (typical hygiene and grooming things)
7. I do not like it when guys show up and do not present themselves in the best light: You asked me to come see you, but you open the door with a wife beater on, you need a hair cut and you are tipsy/drunk.
8. I do not like to be ASKED OUT to dinner/lunch and be expected to pay not only for myself but them too! Annoying AF!!
9. I do not like it when someone first gets my number in a business setting or as they see me busy and then immediately begin motor texting me about what I am doing or any type of conversation. Relax, give me a few hours to finish up unless we agree to speak immediately following our initial meeting or run in.
10. I am really annoyed when guys talk badly about their children’s mother. Work that out. Set some boundaries and make it happen.
11. I hate when guys meet me and immediately ask me to send them pictures of myself (excuse often used: so that they can add it to my contact) ok whatever.
12. I do not like to be called last minute for anything that takes more than a minute to prepare for (that speaks volumes about where I was on the choice to call list.
13. I hate to be called late at night, followed with a text “are you awake?” Because if the call didn’t wake me, now the text will.
14. I hate it when I have mentioned to someone that I am usually up late doing work and they take that as an invitation to call at all sorts of times through the night. 10pm-11-12am Buzz Kill for sure.
15. I generally don’t want to be on the phone talking for hours and hours. And if you call me, please be prepared to talk. I hate dead silence and rambling for conversation. Otherwise, you could have sent a text.
16. I don’t like when people, make plans for me that start after 8pm. (I don’t care if you have been at work) Unless it was planned for.
17. I really don’t like men who smoke cigarettes and black and mild. Cigars are ok. Don’t ask me why!
18. Don’t ask me my favorite food or what I would like to eat and then take me to the opposite. Just go there from the beginning.
19. I really despise the person who goes to the internet for their information about me (that’s not so much a problem as it is when they don’t tell me and act according to something they think they know) and get it ALL WRONG. Just be open, upfront… I don’t have secrets.
20. I do not like sharing food under any circumstances. Please do not eat off my plate. Please do not assume you will try my food when you order something else. Please do not order the family pack/portion for us to share a hot meal at a restaurant.
And these are most of the reasons that I am happily single and don’t mind. And there’s more. OH YOU THOUGHT WE WERE DONE
21. I hate when people make jokes about my idiosyncrasy while doing it. -EX: when I have already said I don’t like something, and you do it just to get a reaction out of me because you think it would be funny. You never know what someone’s trigger could be- just stick to the script.
22. I hate it when people stare at me and do not say anything.
23. I hate to be cut off in conversation/dialogue.
24. I hate non-active listeners.
25. I hate it when someone asks me out and does not have a plan on where we are going or what we are going to do.
26. Random facetime calls are annoying. Do not facetime me.
27. I get off work at 6, does not mean call me at 6 on the dot.
28. Don’t eat on the phone with me at all.
29. Always talking about same thing- every conversation (tony) IE: My house, my house, my maid, my renovation, my house, my stairs, my chandelier
30. I sleep in late most days since I am up late and when I inform someone, but they start texting and calling early in the morning. Leave me alone. Not trying to talk to you on your way to work.
31. People come to my house and help themselves to anything in my refrigerator. I mean, who raised you. Makingyourself at home does not mean this. It means sitting back and relaxing on the sofa, I will offer you something if I have it and if I want to offer it.
31. I send you a text with short info no need to replay, I hate when someone immediately calls me as soon as I send the text.
32. If I’ve never given you my address, never show up. That’s creepy AF
33. If you know my address and I’ve never given it to you, but you went through great lengths to find it, it’s creepy AF.
34. Never show up at my house without an invite ever. That’s reason to call the police.
35. Calling me within 20 minutes of meeting me is annoying AF! Especially when you met me in a setting where you saw that ai was conducting business. Do not motor text me (back to back to back) without getting a response from me in the middle there somewhere. Chances are, I’m busy and you’re being a nuance – such a turn off
36. I absolutely cringe when someone interrupts my workday when I’ve explained my work hours, and have no regard to my time or that I’m working for my living. I don’t date men who don’t value my time when they aren’t paying all of my bills
37. Do not call me when you have a million things going on in the background. That’s not phone etiquette. I can’t hear you and you probably can’t hear me. That’s how important details get missed.
38. Never invite yourself to my house. That’s my call and my call only! insisting on doing so before that time is creepy and weird and cause for a pause, because why??
If “I just don’t want to was a person” 🤣
If “it’s not you it’s me, was a person”😂