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6 Things A Writer Is More Than Likely To Have With Them At All Times

Note Pad / Journal and Pen: As a writer, I can attest to the fact that sometimes thoughts will hit you while standing in the crowded line at the neighborhood grocery store, while purchasing Broccoli for the evening, to cook along with fried corn and steak. Your inspiration can come from anything as small as seeing a toddler crying in the store, a customer dispute with the store manager, to the smell and aroma that’s chasing you down from the deli, all the way to the car that almost hit you, as you were leaving the store. People always ask me, where does my inspiration and ideas come from.

It’s really this simple: I am already inspired to write, I remain in a constant state of being inspired to write, because I love the art of expression. The only way that I know how to do that, is through writing. My ideas come from anywhere and from anything. Every day, there’s a story to be written. I keep my note pad ready for those moments. I jot down ideas as they come and even if they don’t make the final cut, I don’t throw them away. I save them, and often find myself back on that page, building from that thought when and if have a momentary block. I have been known to pull off the road, just to write an idea down or to complete notes and bullet points I want to cover once I begin to write about it.

Camera: They say pictures are worth a thousand words. I think they meant to say, photos can be worth a million bucks. Because sometimes that “money shot” is real! Aside from being in the right place at the right time and having the once or twice in a lifetime opportunity to be the author behind that money shot, having a camera allows you to capture moments that you will never be able to reproduce. That may be your child swinging on the swing, taking a leap into mid-air and landing on his feet. It could be your child taking on the monkey bars, backwards or making rocks jump across the lake. It could be spare of the moment, candid photos that will last a lifetime, in which you can share with readers, who are then able to see the event that you attended, as something worth attending for themselves next year.

It may be at an outing, where you’re having the time of your life and you want to share it the next day, but words could never describe the fabulous time that you had, whereas a photo, nails it. Candid photos also make great talking points and writing prompts. You can present a photo and ask readers to give you their rendition or version of events of what transpired that evening. In this, comes inspiration, because everyone’s answer may be different, and it may spark an entirely different article or blog post for you. Plus, it increases engagement.

A Snack: Because we all like a little protein snack while we are on the go. Truth is, while we are fed very well at events, sometimes we find ourselves talking the entire time and forget to eat. Between events, especially when you get to the point that you schedule yourself for 2-3 different appearances or editorial assignment, which are happening back to back, you don’t have time to stop for food. The lines are too long at the drive thru’, the traffic is too thick to get off the freeway and chance being late or even a no show, so you need to have something in your purse that will carry you from point A to point B.

Plus, it’s an excellent idea anyway to have an extra pick me up to rejuvenate yourself, refresh and hit the reset button before arriving at the next event. As a writer, you may end up at the park a little longer than planned because you found something inspiring to write about, after meeting a mommy of 6, who’s recently widowed or divorced, who just made a move to the city. And because you don’t want to interrupt that stream of thought, behind your belly rumbling, you will tank yourself that you had something right there to snack on. People always ask about writer’s block, and while I have only experienced it once or twice in the last 10 years, I can say that the reason I don’t deal with it now is because I never stop writing. My thoughts lead me. If something says write, right now, I don’t put it off.

Calendar/ Planner: Keeping a calendar and planner keeps you on point. It prevents you from double booking yourself at an event, or for any programs, tours, conferences or workshops that you have a desire to attend and take part in. If you have reached out to tourism bureaus and PR companies about events, it’s an innovative idea to write it down immediately, upon approval to attend, so that; Number 1. You don’t forget, and number 2. You don’t end up somewhere else, when you should have been at the event you obligated yourself to. A calendar and planner keeps you organized and if writing/ blogging is what you want to do, organization is a must when it comes to attending events or taking on press trips and Editorial assignments.

Plus, it puts things into perspective to where you’re able to see deadlines, to make good on your promise to companies to provide them with reviews and or ratings of their product and or services. It helps you plan accordingly, not to take on too much. You do not want to tarnish your rep, by forgetting or not delivering in a timely or promise, because the competition is thick. There are other writers out there waiting in the wing for an opportunity like that. Don’t mess it up, by not having logged it from the jump. Forgetting does not send the message that you take their brand serious or that you’re responsible enough to handle an assignment.

Cell Phone /Recorder: This is because sometimes it is not as convenient to pull off the road and jot things down. You may also be in a position where it’s better to record your own thoughts and ideas, versus writing them down for later review and consideration of a topic to write about. You can use a recorder as a sounding board Listening to yourself helps to break even with what deserves a title and what goes on the back-burner for a later date.

As a writer, there’s also many opportunities that may arise where you have either planned to interview someone or the impromptu opportunity arises, and you always want to be prepared! Cell phones also offer the option of easy posting. If you have something that is worth sharing in the moment, whether it’s in conclusive with an all-out article / post or the picture that’s worth a thousand words to let your audience to #StayTuned, A cell phone with wi-fi capabilities will help you achieve this.

Tablet/Laptop: There comes a time when you spend countless hours at your local coffee shop or lounge, conveniently located at the entrance of your subdivision; where all the notes that you’ve kept on your recorder or the notes that you’ve jotted down all week, in your journal will need to be transferred or transcribed into a post.

Everything you have done all week to accumulate thoughts and ideas, will not be front and center, ready for a place on your writing list. Is it a book, a chapter a book, an outline, a post, a blog, an article, a thought that will inspire an outline for a story? Whatever it is, you now are face to face with your tablet or laptop and it’s time to get to writing. What are you waiting for?

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Why The Pillow Of Health Will Help You Win Father’s Day And How I Have Determined That It’s The Best

Now that Mother’s Day is out of the way, it’s time to start thinking of Dad. Father’s Day is just around the bend, and it would be wise to start making a list to determine the most suitable gift for the man or men in your life; as well as to show appreciation and thanks for them being the man that you love, and/or look up to in life. In making this determination, I made a 3-bullet point check list, which includes dad, significant other and friends who are fathers; to ensure that I address their needs and wants: Benefits, Price, Give Back Initiative.

As a Single-Mom, I have to be mindful of my buying decisions. I have come to enjoy picking out and purchasing the ‘right gift’ for people, based on the economic and financial sense, that if you are going to spend money, that you should also make it count. As I have grown older, I have concluded that people love to be on the receiving end of something that required sentimental thought. Addressing that, has now become my objective around buying decisions. In doing so, I jotted down some questions for the person who remains on the top of my list in the Father category. This would be my dad.

  1. What exactly does dad want or need? I have found those answers by asking: What does he seem to enjoy or appreciate? What makes him smile? What brings him joy? When is he at his best? What does he complain about most? Since your father’s needs may vary quite a bit from the want and need of your significant other, the answers to the above questions may be different, and should be considered.
 

The objective should then be: Because I love you so much, I want to assist you in achieving something that brings you the greatest joy. I want to give you something that you can use that will mean the world to you. I want to have a part in your happiness. As for my dad, health, sleep, rest and relaxation would cut it, because it tackles his needs and wants. He is at his best when he is well rested. He complains about his neck, his back, and his head quite often and he loves it when he wakes refreshed and refined after a good night of sleep. He seems to be at his best at that point.

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PILLOW of HEALTH was developed by a leading manufacturer of medical equipment.

 

Among some of the other things that my dad may be receiving this Father’s Day, I could not think of a more perfect gift for him, other than the Pillow of Health; whose claim to fame is that they are born out of love. It is a product that is manufactured in the USA, with over 20-years experience in hospital pressure relief products. It has been tested and endorsed by professionals: Neurologist, Sleep Doctors who specialize in sleep science & Chiropractor recommended. Most importantly to me, it’s a product that gives back: PILLOW of HEALTH Kids Pillow™ For everyone sold, they give one to a child with cancer! So, what about this Pillow of Health? For starters:

  • It’s the most luxurious, customizable, therapeutic pillow! The PILLOW of HEALTH is the perfect combination of materials in an adjustable pillow, allowing you to experience the feel of a pillow that will adjust to your needs each night, providing you with the most incredible quality of sleep you have ever experienced*.

PILLOW of HEALTH is designed to provide the most restful and comfortable sleep of your life. It’s adjustable design and high quality materials make it one of the most luxurious pillows available today. Quality sleep can also benefit your immune system, heart, weight and mind.

The foam in Pillow of Health® products has earned the CertiPUR-US® seal from the Alliance for Flexible Polyurethane Foam, Inc. (AFPF). The company earned the designation for its foam by using only flexible polyurethane foam that has been approved by an independent laboratory where it was analyzed, tested and certified to meet specific criteria for physical performance, indoor emissions and environmental stewardship.

Pillow of Health® is an innovative, premium quality adjustable pillow that has a zipper opening on the side to allow users to add or remove the medical grade filling to achieve the desired level of comfort and support. Pillow of Health® is antimicrobial, hypoallergenic, dust mite resistant and machine washable and dryable. (www.pillowofhealth.com)

PILLOW OF HEALTH

PILLOW of HEALTH is proudly MADE IN AMERICA. It is designed to withstand regular machine washing and drying without losing shape or softness

The below BENEFITS are what makes this my personal choice, in achieving a Father’s Day Win-Win.

PILLOW of HEALTH is One-of-a-Kind – Offering combined benefits not provided by any other pillow!

PILLOW of HEALTH was developed by a leading manufacturer of medical equipment. This pillow is far superior to any other pillow on the market today. It is not only comfortable, cool and durable but also certified to contain the healthiest fill components available.

Adjustable Firmness for Your Unique Comfort Level

PILLOW of HEALTH is CUSTOMIZABLE; you can add or remove filling to fit your desired firmness level through our proprietary zipper opening to create the perfect level of comfort for your body. You’re in control.

Healthiest Pillow with Certified Medical Grade Foam

The pillow is constructed with a SCIENTIFICALLY ENGINEERED MEDICAL GRADE FILL specifically designed for pressure relief to provide optimal comfort and support. PILLOW of HEALTH is CertiPUR-US® certified and is ANTIMICROBIAL, HYPOALLERGENIC and DUST MITE RESISTANT so you can breathe easy. Moisture Wicking Cover Keeps You Cool and Dry

The outer layer is constructed from the most TECHNOLOGICALLY ADVANCED MOISTURE WICKING FABRIC available to keep you cool and dry. Fabric is 40X MORE BREATHABLE than any other fabric providing a cooler and more comfortable temperature all night long, resulting in a better night’s rest. Luxurious, Durable and Washer/Dryer Safe

PILLOW of HEALTH is proudly MADE IN AMERICA. It is designed to withstand regular machine washing and drying without losing shape or softness. Premium-Quality Materials

PILLOW of HEALTH is made with only the SUPERIOR PROPRIETERY MATERIALS, guaranteed to last, ensuring the best night’s sleep you’ve ever had is the sleep you get to enjoy every night with PILLOW of HEALTH.

30 Day Sleep Trial Guarantee

Limited Lifetime Warranty

I do believe that I will once again nail Father’s Day with this perfect, hand selected and thought inspired gift; which my father will love and appreciate. So, to my sisters, I will say….. I WIN AGAIN!

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What Makes This Mother’s Day As Special As It Was The Last Six Years

What Makes This Mother’s Day As Special As It Was The Last Six Years

Throwback Thursday, I am in my closet, rummaging through some things and I found a Mother’s Day card that my son made for me last year. I had it hung up on our bedroom wall, until a few weeks ago when I decided to move out of our home. I came to it, while searching through a bag for something else, altogether. I stopped to reflect on the hand print that was within one of the cards, that he documented with finger paint. There was another one where he wrote, “I LOVE YOU” But, Love was in sign-language. On the inside, a special note: Happy Mother’s Day.

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I paused, yielding to a few tears of joy… lending my heart to some more than welcomed memories and thoughts that flickered through my mind, followed by revelations, of how I blessed I am to have someone call me MOM. It is such a wonderfully incredible and indescribable feeling all at once. What an Awe-Amazing place to be at 4 months before I turn 40! I am Mother. I am still Mother. And why in the world am I crying right now? LOL…. Those emotions are something that comes with being a mom. In fact, my best friend witnessed me cry once and I was 34 years old then… He starred at me, without saying a word. Then he finally said, I am trying to figure out what to say, because I have never seen you cry. LOL…. Anyway, in this most precious and beautiful moment of seeing these cards, feelings of joy rush in.

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So, when people ask the question, what do I want for Mother’s Day, I am still stuck in such a place, where my answer is, I already got it. My child. What do you give a woman who has everything she wants and everything she needs, loves and desires, whereas the answer is simply, love, love, love and love? I get it, and I understand that the entire world does not revolve around the happiness and joy that my son brings to me and that some people might argue that it could be unhealthy …. Please understand that I am truly just speaking about the overflowing love I have for my son and the gratefulness that I show to my creator for making it possible. I realize that a woman can find love and joy in many other things…but hey, for the record… I got that covered too – and everything is all good. But I am talking about the bean-misters right now. I don’t praise him, I just love him.

The last 3.5 years have been extremely bumpy…where my child was concerned, as his father and I, were in and out of court of some of the pettiest things you could ever think a pompous narcissistic and controlling father could do to the mother of his child. A 4-year cycle of erroneous motion after erroneous motion, which his father filed, almost made me throw in the towel.  However, when I look back on the fight that I put up, to save my son, I have no regrets. When I look back and see that I truly still came out on top- I am even more thankful that I could have had that kind of love in my heart to go as far as I did for my child. To look at him, is to see a reflection of me… and to know that it was all in the name of love, love, love love, and so, it was all worth it. Love is a language that stretches across barriers, breaking levies, steering through mountains, trudging through treacherous paths and untrodden territory; by which is only understood by people who have experienced motherhood… and people who have experiences true love, and for those who know what unconditional love is.

I was made for this. It only strengthened me and encouraged me, to be strong and to be here for my son. The struggle…It helped me survive. The sleepless nights…they are still here, and from what I hear, they will always be here, so long as I am a loving mother. With that, I rest in knowing that it’s only because I care so much and because I love him so much, that I want to make sure that he is ok, wherever he is and with every breath he takes.

I am happy today. I am happy knowing that I survived some of the worst times of my life. I survived some of the most devastating and heart breaking news, but I am still a Mother and I still have my child and that is the best Mother’s Day gift I could possibly ask for. When someone loves my child, and someone cares for my child and shows a vested interest in his well-being, that is the best gift I could receive as a mother. When someone ask, how my child is doing, and they call him by name or have been around long enough to know the nicknames I have given him (Prince Cornelius, Bambino, Bam-Bam) it makes me feel good all over again. When my friends ask, how’s Lil’ C doing, how’s Big C doing… my heart melts.

It is a pleasure and an honor to have been commissioned with the task of being a Mother. It is a Pleasure and an honor to have been assigned to this little boy. I could not imagine life without him. Even when I think about how much easier it would be, I reflect on the wonderful times we have shared over the years…I think of all the times that he has made me laugh, all the times he made me think outside the box, overcome some of my own fears as well as the times that he made me realize how much he needed me to survive….and nothing, not even peace, could replace that. I live for the chaos that the four- foot tornado brings. And though I cry a lot behind some of the things he does, this is my first stab at this parenting thing, so I can only imagine what he’s going through, taking his first stab at this co-parenting thing…So I have loosened the reigns a little. But what he doesn’t know is, my grip isn’t on the reign anyway. It’s on GOD, and GOD’s promises, to protect him, guide him and keep him safe. I am so fortunate. I am so thankful. And I am so blessed, to be celebrating my 7th Mother’s Day, as the mother to Deon Cornelius Kenny, AKA, Prince Cornelius …. Bam-Bam …My Bambino!

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Momma’s Getting A Brand New Bag For Mother’s Day, and A Chipolo, To Help Her Keep Up With It

Chipolo

Chipolo

Chipolo Mother’s Day Collection

Bluetooth Tracker that mom will love. Available until May 16, 2016.

Someone had my mom and I in mind, when they thought of this “Find your stuff for DUMMIES” Chipolo. O.K., maybe too strong of a word to use, but I am sure you would agree that when you have misplaced your keys in the past, or you simply don’t know if someone moved it, you have called yourself a big dummy when you found it several minutes or even hours later. “Dang, I looked there! It wasn’t there” UmmHummm, sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

If only I had this two months ago, as I packed away items to give to the Salvation Army, in preparation of moving out and relocating. I lost my keys in the process. I thought for sure that I packed them in the SA bag, by mistake. I spent 5 days in the house, without access to everything I needed, while waiting on a new set which was sent overnight- however, did not arrive until 5 days later. Once I got the new set, I found my keys in a suitcase that had been sitting next to the bed the entire time.

Hey, it happens to the best of us! Especially Moms. Mommy Brain is something very real. I have totally experienced it in the last 6 years. Sometimes you simply can’t remember all the stuff that you forgot, because you are sharing your brain with toddlers, preschoolers, kinder-gardeners, or even your husband (don’t tell him dad said that). And in the case of keys and cell phone, the idea of it getting up to walk away by itself is not possible, so you are stuck with your memory lapse until it comes back to you.

Chipolo

MOM BRAIN

When “Mom Brain” has you stuck

How about we reduce that time, by using something that will help us reunite with our lost or misplaced and beloved items, that are usually right under our nose, most of the time. Chipolo offers a unique solution that fuses with the time we live in. A Bluetooth and Wi-Fi world. Now you can be tech-savvy, up to date and fashionably discreet, with this small accessory. Chipolo Plus is the world’s loudest Bluetooth tracker that helps you find them in seconds. Chipolo doubles as a remote shutter for your phone’s camera – so moms can capture their family’s best moments without needing a selfie stick.

So, when was the last time that you sat your Key chain down, which has every key from your house, your car, your safety deposit box or even your storage and file cabinet key attached by a ring? When you lost it the first time, did you really think that it wouldn’t happen again? Of course, you did.

It’s a part of my mother’s weekly routine to misplace her cell phone within the confines of her bedroom. She can also open her car and start it without putting a key into the ignition, so long as the keys are within range. The only problem with this convenience is, it forces her to sit them anywhere near the car, but when it’s time to get out and lock it- she can’t find the keys. We’ve found them under the seat before, in the glove compartment and even in the trunk on one occasion. But in all instances, it was after several minutes of wasted time.

Chipolo

Finding Keys Made Simple

Find your keys and phone much faster

This is how it works: When you’re looking for your lost item that Chipolo is attached to, it will make noise when you signal within the app on your phone that it’s lost and will ring until you find it or mark it as lost.

Attach a Chipolo to your keys, wallet, luggage, or anything else that’s important to you. When your Chipolo tracking, device is up to 200-feet from you, you can enable the device to play a 100db melody until you find it.

If your misplaced items are out of Bluetooth range, you can check the Last Known Location feature on the app for a map that shows you where it was last seen.

If you mark your Chipolo as lost and are out of the 200-foot range, Chipolo Community enables every phone with the app to help you search for the lost item. Select Notify When Found in the app and you will get an alert when your lost item is found. As soon as someone in the community comes within range of your item, you will receive an email with its new location.

If you’ve misplaced your phone, double press your Chipolo to make your phone ring, even if it’s on silent.

Flowers and candy are nice, but not after they both get old and stale. A gift that never gets old, is one that will always be appreciated.

Timeless gifts are what’s in! Therefore, Chipolo has earned its spot on my MOM – APPROVED, Mother’s Day Gift-Guide for 2017. My mother will thoroughly enjoy the fact that she can rest well, knowing that she has a personal assistant, Mother’s Day Edition Chipolo; which will aid her in locating her things, such as, cell phone, laptop, and other necessities… when she misplaces or loses them in the house, garage, backyard, office, or car again. This special edition item is available until May 16, 2017

Benefits that your mom will love: Water resistant Up to IP5 standards. 12 months battery life. Works on Android and Apple Devices. Easy to use App. You can use up to 9 Chipolos on one device.

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The reunion of classic cars and classic people got underway today, when my son arrived at NRG Arena, to link up with some of his favorite people, and do one of his favorite things; which is to freely carouse around, at Mecum Auctions.

The reunion of classic cars and classic people got underway today, when my son arrived at NRG Arena, to link up with some of his favorite people, and do one of his favorite things; which is to freely carouse around, at Mecum Auctions.

While I know that the love for cars does not seem to be fading away for him, because his affinity for them, continues to grow stronger; at the same time, l noticed that perhaps there are a few other things that will never get old to him. One, is being in the company of those who remember his name. Ironically, that’s it is the same with me. Not to remember mine, as they did, but to just remember his. It makes my day as a parent, that my son can make such an impression on someone else, to the tune of being invited back. It truly makes him feel special. But also, to see how the impression is reciprocated.

The last time Deon saw the Mecum Auctions Family, was also the first time he met them, and became acquainted, by way of “The Mecum Experience.” That was in 2016.

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It’s a family affair, for sure. The relationship that the Mecum Auctions Family built with Deon, has been such a natural and organic one, that it has solidified my claim, to being next of Kin. So much that, I have been able to say things like: You better be good today, or I will call Mecum and tell them that you’re acting up.” That is because, the relationship that was established, was so sincerely maintained over time, that he cares about them knowing when he has been bad or good.

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Maybe I am wrong for telling him that he will get in trouble, but since this is my first stab at this parenting thing, I have learned that sometimes you just go with what works, until it doesn’t work anymore. Lol. So, if he is inspired to be good, by the strength of a threat that if he does not, I will tell Mecum- – – well then, there you go. Let’s run with it. But that just says that Deon sees the Mecum Auctions family as his own, and that they have showed him that they care as much. So, for the same reason, I am also able to say: “You will get to go see The Mecum Family again, because you have been, and have done so well in school today.” Or “Mecum Family would be so happy to know that you have being such a mindful and respectful big boy.” (The Reward System)

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While Deon’s Value lesson at his 10am Pee Wee, Coach-Pitched Baseball game today, was “Positivity,” I took it a step further to teach “Gratitude.” Who better, to assist me with this message, other than the Mecum Auctions Family.

Gratitude is learned, indeed. I have noticed that Deon has been in many positions where he has been embraced and welcomed, and that people genuinely love him and want what’s best for him. They always expend resources to make sure that he succeeds and has a very fortunate childhood. They encourage him, they take him under their wings, and they always make a learning experience out of everything they do for him, even when he doesn’t realize it-  and even when they don’t realize it. That is when I get to step in, to teach and to add definition to the moment, so that Deon understands that he truly is highly favored and that it is a blessing, to have people ‘reach out to you and make sure you are doing well – and to make sure that you have everything you need.’”

I think I brought that lesson home today when, before getting out the car, I reminded Deon that he should not go into NRG Arena asking for anything… and that he shouldn’t “expect” anything, but that he should simply show gratitude, to those who have welcomed him with open arms and whom had personally invited back. Let me pause to say, this was a lesson for this scenario- because when the dynamics are different, where a career is concerned, of course I know to alter and tailor the lesson to speak to persistence, in pursuing something that he wants.

Upon getting out of the car, his questions began: 1. Mom, am I the only one who gets to come to Mecum? 2. Mom, am I the only one who got to- get to- do the ‘hammer block.’ LOL! “Yes, Deon, you are one of the very fortunate few, who were able to— and I need you to understand that this was not something that every child gets to do. And that it is not something you will get to do every time that you come. So, please do not come out of here upset, if you do not get to do it again. I want you to understand that you did it last time- and you should be grateful. Show them how grateful you are.”

Well, he challenged me when he reached Rob Meyers, Mecum Art Road Art whom

had informed us to stop by to pick up a gift that he wanted to give Deon. He came right out and asked, “Am I the only one who got this?” I almost fell to the floor laughing, and I had to explain his line of questioning. Nonetheless, the lesson was learned and he caught my Tokyo drift.

While todays lessons for Deon was, Positivity and Gratitude, it was humility for me. I am still just as humbled, as I was when we first met the Mecum Family; to have this team people, who have taken on such a positive role as distant mentors for my child. I consider myself to be blessed, and highly favored, to have such an encounter, that impacts me as well as my child, where the both of us can grow and learn from.

Today was the 2017 Houston Finale, and one to remember; as Mecum Auctions, is a traveling show, and will be arriving in () next. Please visit Mecum Auctions, at www.mecumauctions.com to find out when they are in your city.

And, like always, I extend my deepest thanks to everyone at Mecum Auctions, for once again, pulling off a dynamo end to our weekend. We love and will miss you. But until we meet again, we leave you with a fan favorite!!!

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RAISING AN HONEST CHILD

I venture to say, you need to first be an honest parent, before you can truly raise an honest kid. If you do not practice a system of truth, where honesty is rewarded and lies are neither condoned nor rewarded; in and out of the home, where your child living, it may be the reason he/she entertains fabricated stories and habitual lies.

Children do most of which they learn, and are taught; whether taught indirectly or directly. They are a sponge. Not to sound cliché, but they soak in all of the things that is in their surrounding. That includes the things that you say, the things that you do, your attitude toward things, how you act and how you generally handle things. As they grow older, they adopt these measures of behavior, as ways of their own. Some may learn early in life what they need to stop doing. Whereas, others who are subjected to it longer or more consistently, they began to inadvertently implement it into their core character.

I believe in both cases, children keep what they need or want out of the ordeal, when they feel that it produces positive results for them. Such as, learning to lie about certain things and associating the lie with reward. They can tell a lie about a certain thing and be treated a lot differently than from telling the truth. So they begin to think that it is ok to tell a lie. They begin to see a benefit in telling a lie over the truth. They are not taught about an honest policy and the only example they have is broken system of morals to learn from.

For example:

A child is truthful about something he/she did in school, which reflected in poor behavior and resulted in a punishment, by which he was reprimanded for what he did at school. He begins to believe it’s because he told the truth. He does not want to get in trouble, and so he thinks that maybe he shouldn’t have told the truth. Not so much, meaning that the act of truth – telling is why he’s punished, but because of what the truth was, and the guilty plea.

Next time: A child lies about something he/she does at school. He/She is asked about it, and responds with a lie. Nothing happens, because the lie he told exonerates him from punishment. If the adult finds out that it was a lie/or maybe knew all along that it was a lie, the child is not reprimanded in any way.

The lie is accepted by the adult in the situation, and even when the truth comes out, there is nothing to clearly define for the child, what the benefit would be in telling the truth next time. He/she has not experimented and found that the lie will save his bottom.

The children of the world are not shown where the rewards are higher for telling the truth, because if they told the truth, they received a harsh punishment.

Telling the truth shouldn’t excuse bad behavior and by no means, am I suggesting that it should. But what it does is help you raise an honest child. You decide the punishments, but beware of what you are teaching when he/she is trying to tell you the truth about something.

Children also watch their parents and closest people to them, and study how they act in situations of truth vs. lies and how that will play out. Some kids are even encouraged to lie when they have bickering parents, who more than often permits a child to lie about something they don’t want the other parent to find out about. This is the biggest no-no in the game of raising honest children, in that you are “giving permission” to your child to lie and teaching them that its ok to do so, when you do this. Even when you tell them it’s a “little white lie” and it’s ok or when you lead them to believe that he/she can only lie about this certain thing.

Children are not processing all the logic you may have behind the lie. All they hear and walk away from the situation learning, is that it may not be ok to lie all the time, but it’s ok if you do. How is that not confusing? “Don’t tell mommy this” or “don’t tell daddy that”, or “If mommy ask this- tell her xyz”…All those things are absorbed by that child. “Don’t tell mom what you did over the summer,” is lying by teaching your child to omit things. “Don’t tell the whole truth about this”…is also teaching your child to lie by omission. “If mommy asks if you missed school today, tell her no, even though you did”… is another LIE!

A child will sometimes ask why? Especially as he/she grows older and began to understand that he/she is being told to lie. They don’t have to know the details behind the adult lies, but they will ask why, until it starts to make sense. Which most of the time it won’t. Because nothing will help a growing child understand that it is ok to lie to their parents, except another lie. Such as: “If you tell mommy you did xyz, you will get in trouble.” At this point, you are pumping fear into a child, which will manifest into a motive and soon, a reason for him to continue to keep your lies.

It’s just a subject that we need to be careful with as parents, because we’re all guilty of telling at least one “little white lie” in life. And while the example above is more on the extreme side, there are actually some people out there who have done it and even more who can tell you all about their experience with parents who still do it. We have all told our kids that they don’t have to tell the truth about certain things and probably never thought about how we are teaching them to do something that in general, they should not do.

I would never ask my child to lie for me or to be dishonest about something where we are concerned. I teach him about the importance of telling the truth and I make sure I reward him or show him the benefits in telling the truth. When he does tell me a lie, as he’s a 6-years old, growing and still learning, as well as doing a temperature check on what he can get away with; I have the conversation with him that he has to always tell me the truth. I always give him the second chance to tell me, in the same breath, by reminding him that telling me the truth means that I will be better educated/informed about what is going on and will have a more accurate understanding of what I need to do to help him. When my child knows that its all about the “TEAM,” through me reminding him that he can’t lie to the captain, he’s assured that his best bet is to tell the truth.

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Who’s keeping your Kids Safe?Crime Stoppers of Houston Safe School Program

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This isn’t just mommy news, or news just for parents. It extends down the line of caregivers and those who look after our little ones as well as our teenagers, at least in one aspect of their life: School. And while it’s something we hate to think about, the rise of random acts of violence that occur in our schools, and communities; we can never be “too” safe or relaxed on our concerns for their safety.

I couldn’t be happier about sharing the news, that Crime Stoppers of Houston Safe School Program celebrated reaching 1,000,000 million students, last week.

Crime Stoppers of Houston Safe School Program has been keeping schools safe since 1997 by providing students with a safe and anonymous way to report crime and potential dangers on their campus and in their community.

Fun Fact 1: The Safe School Program has educated over 1 million students from PK-12th grade in 28 Greater Houston Area school districts, including private and charter schools and satisfies state and federal mandates.

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Fun Fact 2: In 2016 alone, outreach through the Safe School Program reached over 37,000 students, and directly resulted in 22 solved cases including the removal of illegal drugs and 4 weapons from our schools.

Click here for Crime Stoppers Safe School Program Video Credit: Crime Stoppers Tania Cruz

The Safe School Program stood out to me because of the tools and tips offered to parents. They boast attractive safety presentations, including training to school staff and school based law enforcement officers, which assist in keeping our children safe. Our children are the eyes and ears that we do not have in the school. Therefore, it is necessary for them to be abreast, not just to recognizing early warning signs of things such as; Bullying, Cyber-Bullying, Abuse, and Neglect, but through this program, children learn safe ways to combat prevalent concerns in and around school and at home.
Reporting Child Abuse and Neglect

On a personal note, it saddens me when aid for a child is rendered, but on such a short notice, which often times is too late. This could be due to someone’s silence out of either fear or lack of awareness and understanding of what the signs and symptoms of abuse and neglect are. It tears me apart when it’s not dealt with and more so, when its not acknowledged in a timely manner or an appropriate manner, as it pertains to the safety of the child. I cannot stomach the stories I hear about “after the fact” and how there was a problem long before the present day, which was overlooked and passed off as nothing to be concerned about.

This is only one of the reasons that I have a great affinity for Crime Stoppers and their initiatives, such as the tip line and anonymous reporting, to help safeguard our children; while they are in and out of school. It instills a level of comfort, to see those preventative measures being taken.

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Presentations are available to students from pre-kindergarten through high school in Greater Houston Area school campuses, including private and charter schools and satisfies state and federal mandates. (Crime-Stoppers.org)

One more thing to be excited about: News Via The Padgett Group

Ribbon Cutting Planned for The Dave Ward Building: On January 27, 2017 at 2:00 PM – Crime Stoppers of Houston Leading public safety non-profit (CSOH) will officially cut the ribbon and open the doors to the first-ever headquarters of its kind anywhere in the world. While it’s closed to the public, Media is invited to take part in this historical event.

After 36 years of exemplary service, this historical building will also become Crime Stoppers first permanent home. Approximately 150 of the state’s most prominent individuals including community partners, foundations and corporations will gather at 3001 Main Street, Houston, TX 77002 to celebrate The Dave Ward Building, Crime Stoppers of Houston. The facility was named in honor of Guinness World Record holder Dave Ward for his significant contributions to the organization.

About this Historical Building:

Occupying an entire square block in Midtown, the new Crime Stoppers facility is also the City of Houston’s first Public Safety and Crime Prevention block and will serve as a hub for crime prevention – housing centralized Crime Stoppers operations, staff, volunteers, law enforcement, safe community/safe school programming and media outreach teams in a single three-story 28,000-square-foot building.

Each facet of the new Crime Stoppers headquarters will work to expand the organization’s community programming and serve its vital mission to solve and prevent crime. The organization recognizes that the community can play an active role in keeping themselves safe; therefore, the entire first floor of the building was designed specifically to service the community at no charge. This includes access to a 2,500 square foot multi-purpose community center that will be used for safety seminars and informational events; a victim’s family services room for families and investigators; press conference room and media editing areas equipped with on-site tools available to members of the media to relay important, time-sensitive information to news outlets.

Additionally and within a highly secure setting, law enforcement partners assigned to the Crime Stoppers Tip Line Program (713-222-TIPS) will have a dedicated space to answer the tip line and manage day-to-day operations.


Outside the facility, a 12,800-square-foot Harris County Sheriff’s Officers Memorial Garden will be built to pay tribute to heroes who made the ultimate sacrifice. This serene memorial – the first ever of its kind paying tribute to fallen County officers, will be overseen daily by an on-site officer and welcome any and all to honor fallen heroes. Moreover, this inviting square will serve as a graceful addition to the revitalized Midtown Houston cityscape and constant reminder of the community’s commitment to crime prevention and resolution.

For information about Crime Stoppers of Houston or to give to the building campaign, please visit http://www.crime-stoppers.org or contact Rania Mankarious at rmankarious@crime-stoppers.org or 713-817-5678.

Author: Niedria D. Kenny Credit: Tania Cruz/Kim Padgett

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